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Couples Therapy in Boulder

Like Sinking in Quicksand

There was a time when you couldn’t get enough of each other.

You’d come home from work excited to spend more time together and plan trips and outings for the weekends.

These days you can’t seem to discuss anything without it leading to an argument. But the more you fight, the worse things get.

You wonder why you stay and think about splitting apart.

Walking on Eggshells

It all feels so serious, and tempers can go from 0 to 60 in no time. 

Your relationship is stressing you out. What was once enjoyable now feels like a chore. You dread the thought of yet another blow-up. 

Neither of you trusts that it’s safe to share, and you don’t feel like dealing with it anymore.

Sometimes it seems easier to not even try. The distance between you is palpable.

You Can’t Fake It Anymore

The writing has been on the wall for a while.

Things are bad, and you can’t pretend they’re not any longer.

But they don’t have to be.

Real intimacy is achievable with the right tools.

Learn to Trust Again

We learn to do relationships by watching what we see around us as kids, most commonly from our parents.

Unfortunately, our parents are not always the most stellar template of how to be in a healthy relationship as adults.

All the arguing and bickering damages trust – and let’s face it, that doesn’t exactly lend to a genuine desire to connect romantically or otherwise.

Learn to Connect and Get Unstuck

Research shows that the average couple has 6 years of consistent unhappiness together before getting help. At that point, resentment has probably set in and it’s easy to think that things can’t get better.  But that’s not true!

Common Reasons Couples Seek Counseling

  • Communication Problems: Partners often struggle to effectively communicate due to different communication styles or negative interaction patterns.

  • Lack of Openness: During difficult times, partners may avoid discussing important matters, which can hinder problem-solving.

  • Emotional Disconnect: Couples may experience periods of emotional distance, leading to doubts about the viability of the relationship.

  • Trust Issues: Infidelity or betrayal can rupture trust and require addressing emotional harm and understanding underlying issues to rebuild trust.

  • Emotional Withdrawal: During times of hurt, individuals may withhold love, communication, or physical intimacy as a form of punishment, further damaging the relationship.

  • Substance Abuse Impact: Substance addiction can disrupt trust, emotional connection, and even compromise safety.
    Parenting Struggles: Differences in parenting styles can cause significant stress in relationships and impact the parent-child relationship.

  • Mismatched Sexual Desires: Many couples face challenges due to differing sexual desires, which can be addressed through therapy to foster a healthier overall relationship

     

Real Intimacy Takes Work – and Courage

Most people haven’t had a class on how to have a successful intimate and loving relationship.

It may sometimes seem like it would be easier to walk away or start over with someone else, but you will replicate those same patterns again and again. Your brain is hard-wired to do that until it learns not to.

No amount of shiny new person, place, or thing can undo that hard-wiring on its own. Building a life of meaning with a healthy and satisfying relationship requires you to look in the mirror and admit your stuff, the things you need to work on so that you’re the best you to make a we.

Taking that step is no small feat, and it takes guts.

Don’t Just Get Back to What You Were – Get Something Better

We all want to feel valued and respected. Couples counseling creates a safe pocket of space in your week to examine what’s working and what still needs work, and teaches you the skills to create that reality.

Couples counseling is an investment that will pay off for the entirety of your lifetime and will have a ripple effect for generations beyond you.

Change is not easy, but you can’t keep going this way much longer and you both deserve to feel truly loved and understood in your relationship.

It’s Time for a Change

You can’t go back and change the past. But you can learn from it and move forward to build a connected and meaningful life together.

Call (720) 845-6600 or email drjodiebenabe@somethingwildwellness.com for a free 20-minute consultation to discuss how you can get more intimacy, trust, and passion in your relationship through Couples Counseling in Boulder!